“We desire to possess a beauty that is worth pursuing, worth fighting for, a beauty that is core to who we truly are.”
-Staci Eldridge, Captivating
In my work with millennial young women we often touch on the theme of self worth and feeling loved. Actually, “touch on” is an understatement. We often DIVE DEEP into feelings of self worth, feeling pretty enough, and feeling good enough.
I commonly hear from very successful young women that they don't feel that others really know their “true self”. They write off any compliments as not really being about them, but attribute it to a fluke or just good luck. There is a sense of not being fully known and therefore not being able to fully accept love and praise.
The desire to be loved and accepted doesn’t just disappear. It may come out in other ways such as seemingly random anxiety or panic attacks, but this anxiety tends to be connected to a deeper fear. When low self worth stays buried under the surface it can also manifest as depression, feeling numb, or a general sense of feeling overwhelmed. I see these symptoms as clues to where self worth issues may lie.
Be curious about your clues instead of beating yourself up for having them. Think of your anxiety as a signal that you have a legitimate need or desire under the surface.
If you’re concerned you may be depressed, try asking yourself what you are specifically feeling, and name it! Then ask curiously where this feeling may be coming from and what is says about you as a person. You can dive deep on your own by journaling about these concerns or talking to a trusted friend when you notice these clues that you may be doubting yourself on a deeper level.
My clients have shared that diving deep into these topics helps bring into light the root of their pain. Only when you identify the root of your pain can you begin the healing process. ✨
If you are looking for more support as you dive in feel free to contact me for a free consultation to see if I may be a good fit to help. I view my role as a counselor as a guide and a sounding board, providing a safe place to dive deep.